The Disconnected Connection
By Moshe Ornstein
“But Dr. Moshe, it must be so boring to go a whole 25 hours without driving, using your phone, or responding to email! Don’t you feel so disconnected?”
In my world – as a doctor who treats cancer patients – this concept is unfathomable. My patients’ records are on computers that are wheeled around the medical wards. My research is stored on triple-locked files on a secure server. The nurses get in touch me through my (admittedly) archaic pager. They cannot imagine how I can spend 25 hours “disconnected” and what I could possibly do during that time.
I get this question frequently and so I generally respond with the following:
“Let me share with you my weekly Shabbos experience. I come home on Friday afternoon and head off to shul (synagogue) where I spend a short time davening (praying) alongside my friends. Then I walk home with some of my friends and sit down with my wife and kids to a Shabbos dinner. And, imagine this: the home phone is disconnected, cell phones are turned off, and all computers are shut down and out of sight. It’s just us, reconnecting, after a long week of school, work, and distractions. Shabbos morning, the routine is repeated. My wife and kids come to shul as well to daven and attend child programming, respectively. Then we spend time with our friends (again, minus the electronic distractions) and we either have guests over for lunch or head over to a friend’s house to have lunch there. The entire afternoon is then spent with family and friends, attending Torah lectures, and returning back to shul for the conclusion of shabbos.”
When I describe Shabbos to my colleagues at work, they quickly realize that I am in fact not at all disconnected on Shabbos. Rather, the focus of shabbos is to reconnect through disconnecting. We disconnect from our daily work life-lines of phones, computers, tablets, etc and reconnect to our true life-lines of family, friends, and faith. It is a time to remind ourselves that the most important parts of life do not require an artificial connection.
But shabbos is more than just reconnecting. One of the best parts of Shabbos is that this so called “disconnection” is the best way to recharge and rejuvinate. As we spend 25 hours reconnecting with our families and friends we find ourselves fully recharged. Every seven days we get this wonderful opportunity to reconnect and recharge through this disconnection.
And so I invite you to join us in Cleveland as part of the Shabbos Project to reconnect with Jews worldwide as we make history experiencing shabbos together!
Moshe Ornstein is a hematology/oncology fellow at the Cleveland Clinic. He lives in Beachwood, OH with his wife Adina and three children.